I am not crazy about the title but the overall point of the article is about how"....important to commit to accepting, supporting and loving your child no matter what..."

The article gives 10 possible guidelines to help ... per the article "since no guidebook was available for her, this is my attempt to help parents who are where she was. How do you raise a fat, healthy, happy child? I’m not a doctor or a psychologist. I’m just a fat kid who grew into a fat adult, and this is what would have been helpful to me."

FYI... I was a "thick" ..oversized child, teenager and have struggled with my weight since I was about 10 years old.. I remember being called "thunder thighs" growing up and being taken to Weight Watchers as young as 12 years old... I didn't realize the underlying issues that don't help the weight until 2008 when I was correctly diagnosed with PCOS and Hashimoto's along with taken off medicines I didn't need to be on.. believe me I have done every fad diet out there and even intensive procedures to gain a footing on my weight because I thought these were my only choices until I found my path into the Health & Wellness Coaching/Nutrition journey..

Part of the article-

"This past fall, my daughter, at 20 months, became fascinated with her bellybutton. At every chance she got, she began lifting her T-shirt to joyfully point it out. The inference that Mama and Daddy had bellybuttons too was not far behind, and neither were further exploration efforts. But when she lifted my shirt, I could feel myself sucking in my stomach. I felt shame — and ashamed of my shame. And that’s when it hit me: I have to sort my head out, regarding my body, for the sake of my daughter.
My relationship with my body is, to put it mildly, fraught. I have not always, but I have usually, been fat. I have always hated that fact, although I have tried not to. I have been a so-called normal weight, by the standards of the draconian body mass index guidelines, only when I have been starving myself or eating a highly restrictive and often downright odd diet. Over the past year, I have lost nearly 50 pounds, prompted by a vague sense of obligation to shrink myself back down to size. As usual, the weight came off only with efforts so extreme that I hesitate to admit to them: Over the course of a month last winter, I didn’t eat for 17 out of 30 days."

Societies Diet Culture causes-

low self-esteem
anxiety
depression
obsessive-compulsive disorder
troubled relationships
impulsive behavior

This is why I have jumped off the merry go round.. why I work with others to correct digestive imbalances & supporting mental health with body positive restorative therapies...

We all need to reset our ideals of what true beauty is.. and it doesn't come what we look like... it really does come from the inside...

Article Link -- https://www.nytimes.com/2022/01/03/opinion/diet-resolution.html

1. Renew Your Ability to Listen to What Your Body Needs

When you first get on the scale what are your thoughts about food, exercise your body?? I'm guess some of those thoughts are how to reduce more calories or what diet should be tried or what should be restrictions? On top of those thoughts you may even be thinking about how exercise could help with burning calories and fat instead of all the health benefits you will lose from removing food and over exercising.

Ditching the scale will help you to shift from a diet culture mentality to a more intuitive way of eating and moving. This means that you will eat when you are hungry and move your body in a way that is nourishing to you mind, body and spirit. I know it's a shocker but your body will tell you when you are hungry, full and need to move. So allow your body to eat and gain the nutrients it needs when it is needed and move when needed in ways you enjoy too.  Basically, ditching the scale will allow you to view food and movement in a healthy way that is joyous and beneficial. There is not a one size fits all so follow and listen to your body.

“Renewing” your ability to listen to your body is something that is innate in inside all of us.  We were born with this ability. Watch an infant or a toddler some time. They will tell you when hungry or thirst or even when they need to move their bodies.  It's really a simple concept. However, somewhere along the way we form habits and a mentality that gets in the way of our innate ability to listen to our body's cues for food, movement, sleep etc.

2. You Are Not An Object

Your body is not an object to be measured. There are so many articles and websites out there about how, when, why someone should weight their selves from first thing in the morning etc. The information out there is  exhausting, misguiding and antiqued.  My opinion is that never is the best time to weight one's self.

Breaking this down- you could step on the scale three times throughout the day and each time the number on the scale would be different. It could be due to water fluctuation, food, exercise, hormones, etc. This is because you are a person. You are a living human being. You are not an object. You are not meant to weight the same at every given moment.

3. Your Mental Health Will Thank You

Let's look at the roller coast ride we end up going through when we weigh ourselves whether at home or at the doctor's office etc. We see the number on the scale and this is where the roller coaster of emotions begin. There could be an emotional “high”, because one week we experience feelings of joy, accomplishment and more with a 3 to 5lb weight loss. Then at some point there is a gain of may be 1 to 2lbs that same week or the next week.  Remember this could be water fluctuation, food, exercise, hormones but we really don’t know. And now there is blaming ourselves, frustration, depression, thoughts of failure. At this point- 1 of 2 things occur- you either giving up or begin restricting even more. Sound familiar?

Well, you are not alone. A study completed by researchers at the University of Minnesota found that there is a negative relationship between self-weighing and mood, self-esteem, body image, and eating behaviors (1). It was noted that this negative impact was more apparent among women and younger individuals. Overall, putting too much emphasis on weigh-ins can be dangerous to your mental health and eating disorders can result due to this roller coaster ride.

4. Weight Is Not A Predictor of Health

Not a lot of people realize that weight is an overused method of determining health. I’m sure you’ve seen the BMI (body mass index) chart at your doctor’s office that supposedly lets you know if you are in a “healthy range” for you height. Well, the BMI was created as an easy way to categorize weight in population-based studies. However, research shows that it is not an effective way to assess an individual’s health and wasn't meant to be used as it is today. For example, it doesn’t take into consideration things like muscle mass, body fat percentage, or where your body stores fat.

Weight, is just a piece of information, that does not indicate the presence or absence of health by itself. There are plenty of thin people living with diabetes, heart conditions etc, and there are people who might be  overweight as far as some tables or scales would suggest who are actually very healthy. Furthermore, weight is just a number on the scale that doesn't advise what a person can or cannot due. Can you run a mile? Can you walk comfortably? Can you pick up your child? These kind of things are what really matter to your life.

Unfortunately, weight stigma occurs because of this barbaric, antiqued view of someone's physical appearance instead of actually learning what a person truly can do.  We are all more than our weight...

5. You Are Meant for More

Let me ask you this. If you weren’t thinking about dieting and the scale all the time, what would you be doing instead?

We waste so much time counting calories, weighing ourselves, researching diets, and all the stuff diet culture tells us that is so important. But why? We all are here for a purpose, and I am pretty sure that our purpose is not to weigh a certain number on the scale. PERIOD!

No matter what you choose because I get it - You may not be comfortable quitting the scale completely.  And if you’re not ready today, that’s okay too. However I would like to  recommend that the next time you are about to step on that scale, think about whether that action is serving you mind, body and spirit. Does the information you receive from the scale really make a difference in your life for the better? Why are you really stepping on that scale?

References:

1. Pacanowski CR, Linde JA, Neumark-Sztainer D. Self-Weighing: Helpful or Harmful for Psychological Well-Being? A Review of the Literature. Curr Obes Rep. 2015 Mar;4(1):65-72. doi: 10.1007/s13679-015-0142-2. PMID: 26627092; PMCID: PMC4729441.
   

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Humans are social creatures, and we have an innate need within us to share and bond with other humans. This inter-social dialogue is what our brains require to properly process our thoughts and build resilience to keep surviving.

This means that in order to stay mentally well, we need to process (and talk about) our feelings.

If you have a trusted friend, family member, or partner who has expressed interest in hearing about your life and your well-being, talk to them about your feelings.

If you don’t feel as though you have anyone in your life who can take on the emotional labor of talking through your thoughts, consider reaching out to a counselor, therapist, support group, or wellness specialist who can provide you with professional support and guidance.

In addition, or as a first step, try journal writing. Write down your thoughts when you’re feeling overwhelmed, anxious, afraid, unworthy, or anything else. Our thoughts will bottle up and knock around our minds unless we find ways to release them and allow them to come full circle; writing these thoughts down is a great way to help this process move along

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